Why The "Sexy" In The Sexy Single Mommy?

     I am often asked, "Why did you have to put "sexy" as part of the title of your blog?" "Why couldn't you just be the single mommy?"  My answer to this question is that although I am a single mom, I am also sexy.  It is who I am and why deny it?
     When you hear the word sexy, most people think of the definition meaning, "sexually attractive or exciting and/or sexually aroused."  Maybe that's why I am asked why I included it in the title of my blog.  For me, sexy is all a state of mind.  It is how you carry yourself every day.  Being sexy is about being confident in who you are and the skin that you are in.  There is no room for self doubt when being sexy. 
     When you are a mom, you deal with so many things that sometimes we "lose ourselves" in the mix.  We become so involved in the lives of our families that we adopt the "mommy jeans"  and ponytails as part of our daily look.  As moms we have to remember to keep it "sexy" at all times.  We have to take the extra time in the morning to throw on a little mascara, lip gloss and run a comb through our hair.
     When you are single, I think that you have to put forth a little more effort than that of our married counterparts.  Who cares what they look like, they have someone to go home to?  We, on the other hand are looking for someone to eventually wife us and go home to.  I mean, let's be honest here, although I am single, I would like to be in a relationship and someone's wife one day.  Thus, us single ladies have to go through some thangs to make sure that we are presentable all the time.  My grandmother told me a long time ago, "a woman should always make sure that she looks presentable because you never know who you may meet." I have always taken this to heart.  I think that it is ridiculous for women to go to the store in their pajamas and slippers or with rollers and a scarf on their head.  That's not cute!  What if you run into a handsome man looking like that?  No Bueno! Ladies, we have to step it up!
     Now being sexy does not mean dressy like a slut.  You can be sexy with looking like you are on your way to or from the strip club.  You can be well dressed, covered up and still be sexy.  You can be sexy in a tank top and maxi skirt, remember its all about your attitude and confidence.  Putting a smile on your face is sexy.  Your conversation can be sexy, without even talking about sex.
     What it all boils down to is this, I am more than the title, "The Sexy Single Mommy."  There are layers upon layers that make up who I am.  Being sexy and single is just part of that.  Having a smile that can light up a room is another part.  I believe that I am the bomb.com all day, baby and there isn't a woman alive that is better than me.  Hell, if you don't believe in you, who will?  Being sexy is about having that type of confidence and I have to say, I gotta a WHOLE lot of that!!