Why is it that texting has taken the place of actually picking up the phone and CALLING someone? When did it become acceptable to send a text saying, "Wassup," to a woman that you are interested in? Is that the best you got? "Wassup?" Spare me, please!
Gone are the days when men would call you and talk to you on the phone. Now men want to text entire conversations and instead of a phone call starting with, "Hello. How are you?" We get a text saying, "Wassup." What has the world come to? I just don't understand why a man can not articulate a simple, "Hello. How are you today?" Is it that hard? It's like you have to train men on proper phone and text etiquette right from the start. I don't want to do it but I have to start "training" them from day one on what my expectations are. I have to require that they call and not "just" text and that they call with a proper greeting and not a ghetto ass, "Wassup." If you don't let them know what you require and respond to these texts, you end up holding entire conversations via text.
If you have been following me, then you have read my blog, "Hell No! You Can't Come See Me," so you already know what my response to "wassup" is but I try not to go there initially. I give men the benefit of the doubt at least once, especially in the beginning, because he doesn't know me but I make sure that I am clear about what I expect. Ladies, if you are not upfront about your expectations and you respond to the "wassup" texts, an entire conversation ensues and he begins to think that it is okay to communicate with you in this manner. Now, don't misunderstand me, I am not saying that you can never text one another, but if you NEVER or very RARELY talk to him on the phone, then that's a problem. Besides, I don't know about you but it is easier to just say what you need to say on the phone instead of trying to type everything and make sure that you are spelling everything correctly for fear of looking like an illiterate fool via text.
It all becomes very annoying and I have to wonder if I am going to ever find someone who I don't have to "teach" how to court a woman? It baffles me that something so easy can be so damn hard. Is it just me, ladies? Those of you who are single, give me some feedback on men and texting. What have been your experiences and how have you dealt with it. Enquiring minds want to know.
Gone are the days when men would call you and talk to you on the phone. Now men want to text entire conversations and instead of a phone call starting with, "Hello. How are you?" We get a text saying, "Wassup." What has the world come to? I just don't understand why a man can not articulate a simple, "Hello. How are you today?" Is it that hard? It's like you have to train men on proper phone and text etiquette right from the start. I don't want to do it but I have to start "training" them from day one on what my expectations are. I have to require that they call and not "just" text and that they call with a proper greeting and not a ghetto ass, "Wassup." If you don't let them know what you require and respond to these texts, you end up holding entire conversations via text.
If you have been following me, then you have read my blog, "Hell No! You Can't Come See Me," so you already know what my response to "wassup" is but I try not to go there initially. I give men the benefit of the doubt at least once, especially in the beginning, because he doesn't know me but I make sure that I am clear about what I expect. Ladies, if you are not upfront about your expectations and you respond to the "wassup" texts, an entire conversation ensues and he begins to think that it is okay to communicate with you in this manner. Now, don't misunderstand me, I am not saying that you can never text one another, but if you NEVER or very RARELY talk to him on the phone, then that's a problem. Besides, I don't know about you but it is easier to just say what you need to say on the phone instead of trying to type everything and make sure that you are spelling everything correctly for fear of looking like an illiterate fool via text.
It all becomes very annoying and I have to wonder if I am going to ever find someone who I don't have to "teach" how to court a woman? It baffles me that something so easy can be so damn hard. Is it just me, ladies? Those of you who are single, give me some feedback on men and texting. What have been your experiences and how have you dealt with it. Enquiring minds want to know.
HAHA, I know what you mean. Im a man and married, and my wife texts the hell out of me, Im like dam baby, I want to hear your voice sometimes. This technology world has just made people lazy, and some people forget the basic things in life. www.blackconvo.com
ReplyDeleteYes, we have forgot basic things. We don't even know anyone's telephone number by heart anymore.
DeleteSuddenly this doesn't feel like friendly turf, and I'm afraid to leave a comment. But I'll risk all by saying I do not text anyone. I don't even have a cell phone.
ReplyDeleteLOL!!! Of course this is friendly turf! No cell phone in 2012? My hat is off to you, Sir!!
DeleteI've been out of the dating scene for awhile, but have already picked up on the textin instead of phoning trend. I must admit it turns me off big time!
ReplyDeleteYes, it is
DeleteI must admit. I am really guilty of this. I have 2 phones. Working in the entertainment industry, Texting an emailing has been a way to cover my ass. People can say anything on the phone. With text and email I can go back and show exactly what was said. I just told myself last week that I need to make a better effort of talking to people on the phone.
ReplyDeleteWhen it comes to women. I am fickle. When you talk to them on the phone (some). Either they want to ask a million questions or they have a bunch of Things going on.... Then I have to act like I am concerned... I know that sounds bad. But I have a lot on my plate. I rather send a text. Text has no emotions. Even though in my mind I might be thinking WTF you want me to do, I am not a Doctor... My text says "I hope you feel Better". 8-)
SMH! The key words in all this is that "no emotions/" That is the problem, you are not showing any emotions. I can see a woman asking questions if she is getting to know you. How else is she going to find out stuff? Yes, you need to do better!
Deletelol. I am trying. Work in progress
DeleteFound you from Blog Star! Completely agree, people need to call more!
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