Thursday, July 19, 2012

Do Expectations Cause Disappointment?

When I think about past relationships I often think about what went wrong.  Besides the fact that I get bored very quickly and once I feel like the person is no longer holding my interest, I'm out.  I know that it doesn't sound good but it's the truth.
My sister told me that you shouldn't have expectations in a relationship because when that person doesn't meet your expectations, you are disappointed. As I think about this, I have to wonder if this is true. Are we disappointed when someone doesn't meet our expectations and do we put such high expectations on people that they can not possibly meet all of them?  Give me your thoughts?

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5 comments:

  1. NecheJuly 19, 2012 at 7:43 PM

    I think that everyone has high expectations when they go out with some-one else it's a psychological thing, it's bound to happen and of-course it causes dis-appointment.

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  2. stephen HayesJuly 19, 2012 at 10:16 PM

    I have no relationship advice but when it comes to meeting people or confronting new experiences I try to have no expectations.

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  3. Tiffany Fleming-LynnJuly 22, 2012 at 11:35 AM

    Well I'm no dateing or relationship guru or anything but I meet and approach every person as if they are a friend. So the only expectations I have are those from a friends prospective the basics that we have mutual respect for each other,that we value each others time and that we are real and keep the friendship boundaries in tact like dont make asumptions or give me your advice on my kids, partner, home or work unless I've givin you the green light and ask for it. That way if I'm turned off or just not willing to keep you in my space we are just acquaintencess and nothing more and we both can move on be polite and not have any feelings hurt.

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  4. AnonymousJuly 29, 2012 at 4:04 AM

    I agree with the first commenter that it's natural/human/psychological to have expectations--whether we recognize them or not oftentimes they are at work. Some say you shouldn't have them at all, especially when it comes to dating. But I believe to avoid some of the disappointment, it is wise to SHARE your expectations with the other person and then they can tell you upfront if they can meet them or not and you can decide how you'd like to proceed from there. That way people know what's expected of them. Because it's not fair to hold someone to a standard he/she isn't aware of.

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