Thursday, August 16, 2012

Let Me Clear Some Things Up From My Last Post

    This post is in response to a conversation that I had with a friend today who had a few things to say about my last post, From the Book of The Sexy Single Mommy Chapter 2 versus 1-3.  The part that he took issue with was the point that I made about men "investing" in women.  He felt like there would be some women who would read this post and think, "Yeah, that's what I need to do, have men start "investing" in me."  The problem with that he pointed out, " Is that these women are not on the same level as you.  They aren't bringing anything to the table, they don't take care of their business, let alone their kids and they they think a man is going to "invest" in that? That's not going to happen."
     After listening to his points, I had to admit that they were valid ones.  So valid, that I think that I need to state for the record that in order for a man to consider investing in you, then you need to be worth investing in.  You need to be bringing something to the table and that "something" needs to be more than ass.
     Ladies, take the time to work on you.  Get to know yourself and decide what you want in a man and a relationship.  All the things that you want in a man should be the same characteristics that you possess, as well. Then and only then will a good man find you worthy of investing in.
     
    

11 comments:

  1. So true! What ARE you bringing to the relationship? I think about this a lot, and it's been four years into mine. I still want to be "worth it" to my husband.

    Found you via MBC!

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    1. Thanks Tracie for stopping by! Keep on being "worth it" girl!!

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  2. Just stopping by from the blog hop, and I am so happy that I did. Your post is awesome, true and so very important for women to read.

    Have a great weekend!

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    1. Hey Roe! I am glad that you stopped by and enjoyed the post. Thanks!

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  3. Thanks for your correction..However, The situation should also work both ways for the male as well as the female entering in a relationship..How many times do some women select men that are not on the same economic level? So, I would say both parties need to have something besides SEX..to place on the table..... or be evenly yoked..

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  4. Hi new follower here! Love your blog!

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  5. Found your blog in a round-about way....through a comment you made on a blog i follow. So far, I love what I read. And you are so right in this post. I am 47 years old. Been married/divorced more than once. Currently married, and I'm just now learning what you mentioned here. After all my failures and mistakes, I am wishing for the opportunity to finally work on ME. This is something I should have done a long long time ago. It would have saved a lot of pain and wasted years. Can't wait to read more!

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    1. Thanks, Robin! I am so glad that you found me and that you enjoy the blog. Sometimes it takes some of us longer to learn a lesson but better late than never!!

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