Wednesday, August 15, 2012

From the Book of The Sexy Single Mommy Chapter 2 verses 1-3

     I know that some of you think that I come down pretty hard on women on my blog.  I don't think that it's a matter of coming down hard on ladies but a matter of imparting some wisdom to those who are going out the world ass backwards.
     Some of these woman may have never had anyone to break it down for them before.  Others may not have had a mother or sisters who kept it real with them.  While there may be a few that are just so damn hard headed that they don't want to hear the truth.  Whatever the case may be, when I said that I was going to keep it 100 with y'all, I planned on doing just that.  This blog is no holds barred and if nothing else, "You gonna learn today!" (In my Kevin Hart voice)
     Some of you ladies are making poor choices.  You are giving men too much power and allowing them to treat you how ever they want to.  It's not until you get totally feed up that you want to put your foot down.  By that time, Boo, it's too late.  When you allow a man to do and say whatever they want to you...that's a problem!  If you have no standards, then of course a man will treat you any kind of way.  Let me break some things down for you.
     If you allow yourself to be "just" a booty call and that's all that the two of you do, how can you expect after being a "piece of ass" for 6 months, that you can demand that he start to take you out?  Why now?  Why not in the beginning? Is it because you have caught feelings for him?  Now you want him to be your "man" and do stuff that people in a "real" relationship do?  If you don't get the fuck out of here with that bullshit!!
     Ladies, you have to demand respect from the beginning. Not in the middle of the game.  The problem is that some of you women want to be the man.  You think that you can have sex and not have emotions.  Some women can but most can't.  When you give up the ass from the gate then want him to start doing shit with you like going on dates, family functions, etc. you are highly delusional!  What part of the game is that?  I am sorry to tell you, Sweetie, but you played yourself!
     Now let me say that every now and then, you may get one that after complaining that all you do is have sex, MAY take you to the movies to shut you up, but trust me when I say, if you are thinking that he is going to be your man, you are mistaken. That ain't going to happen because he has already labeled you as an "easy piece of ass" and who wants someone like that to be their woman?
     You messed up from the beginning by choosing to lay down with a man who didn't give a damn about you.  If he was any kind of man, he would have tried to take you out and get to know you from the start.  ON THE OTHER HAND, IF YOU WERE ANY KIND OF WOMAN YOU WOULD HAVE MADE SURE THAT HE SHOWED YOU SOME RESPECT AND YOU SHOULD HAVE DEMANDED THAT RESPECT!  
     So now you are probably wondering what do you do now?  How do I demand respect from men?  Ladies, it's really very simple.  Be a LADY!  Respect yourself and carry yourself like a lady.  Don't go smiling up in every mans face that approaches you or shows you some attention. You should be picky!  Have some standards and spend time getting to know a man.  Let him take you out.  A man who will take you out and spend time with you is showing that he is willing to make an investment in you.  If a man is not willing to spend any money or time with you, he is showing you that he doesn't think that you are worth it and he is not interested in investing in you.  Don't give up the ass so soon.  Make him work for it.  The saying, "All good things come to those who wait" holds true here.  Make him wait for your good thing!  There is power in the p!  Don't be no fool!  Use your powers wisely!!

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  1. Well, you shoot straight and from the hip. If I had a daughter I'd make her read this post.

  2. Another excellent message Ty, I couldn't have said it better myself..I think you should add also investigating the person past, whether or not they have a history of drugs, prison, etc. There are so many men playing must keep yourself safe..In fact, use the 90 day rule if not longer..

  3. I like your blog and I don't think that you come down too hard on women at all. A lot of the reason why women aren't respected on the same level as men is because they simply don't demand it. I wish all women were like this- more assertive in demanding respect and more lady like. Just found your blog and I've loved looking around and getting to know you better. I'm excited to follow along!

    new follower :)

    1. Thanks, Bonnie! I appreciate that! I will be stopping by your blog as well.

  4. ...going out the world ass backwards. Good stuff cousin

  5. I made it your way and glad I did! I love straight forward people! This is good stuff!! Next time I hear a woman bitching about how horrible her man is, I will refer them to this blog! lol

    1. LOL! Thanks for the referrals! I will set them straight.